Okay, so not totally sure why, but lately I have been getting just as many questions about people’s dating lives as I have about cooking. I am not Dear Abby people. But ya know, if Dr. Phil can spew his crap, why can’t I? So here we go. Useless dating advice from Peabody. The “doctor” is in.
Number one piece of advice to you all in the joy that is the world of dating: Stay true to yourself.
Women especially have a problem of losing themselves in the relationship. I did this at one time. I stopped pretty much liking/doing any of my hobbies and became completely immersed in his. His friends, his hobbies, his, his his. Now there is nothing wrong with being introduced to something new and liking it. But ditching what you like to do just to be doing what he likes to do is a no-no. And eventually will come back to bite you in the ass.
When my friend L first started to date her husband she pretended to like camping because he loved camping. She was in the throws of the butterfly stage and thus went along with it thinking that if she dare speak up and say that camping to her is a 4 star hotel that he would ditch her. They dated. They got married. And now every time they go on vacation, which should be fun, they have conflict. Because her husband wants to camp and she wants to stay in a hotel. I always side with her husband on this one.
My husband got in this trap as well. When we were dating I was playing ice hockey 4 times a week, reffing, and score keeping. We went to Coyote games. I had the NHL Center Ice package. And he watched it all. He went to tournaments with me as well. He took up skating. I thought he really liked it.
Yeah, not so much. In fact, not even really all that close. So of course now he doesn’t watch hockey with me or really come to my games (except the ones he has to score keep while I play). Which is fine, but I would have really preferred that he was up front about it in the beginning. Because now, even when he fakes interest in it, I know he is just faking. And I’d rather have him go do something he enjoys then sit around and watch the Flames play hockey on TV with me because deep down I know he is just really thinking “my God, how long is this game?”
Will you lose a guy( or girl or whomever you choose to date) if you are up front with him? Maybe. I once went out with this uber hot guy. Who loved NASCAR. I don’t. The younger day me would have faked liking it. But then the reality of me having to sit around and watch NASCAR all the time sat in. So when he asked me what I thought of NASCAR, I told him that sitting in a car going really fast around in circles wasn’t a sport to me. Granted it’s a skill, but then again so is balancing a spoon on your nose, and I don’t find that very interesting either. In the end we didn’t end up dating very long, which just meant far less NASCAR for me. Though he did have a nice butt. Sigh.
So feel free to let those boys know: I don’t like Thai food. I don’t bungee jump or jump out of airplanes. I don’t like to watch professional basketball (live or on TV). I don’t think NASCAR, bass fishing or most things found on the Outdoor Channel are sports (again, skill yes, sport, no) and I don’t want to sit around watching that with you.
I will probably be overdressed for everywhere we go, no I don’t expect you to be. I like guys who wear deodorant. I really don’t care how much money you make. I don’t care what car you drive (though one that runs is nice). I care how you treat me and how you make me feel.
Since marrying a picky eater I often make things that I know he will like. But usually what he likes and I like are not the same in the world of sweets and baked goods. Every now and then I just say f-it and make what I want. This ice cream is a prime example.
I didn’t have cinnamon sticks so had to use ground cinnamon. If you have the sticks I suggest using three of them instead of the ground. Just make sure to strain them out before you put the custard into the ice cream maker.
I’ve made cookie dough truffles before. Some people had trouble with them, I to this day am not sure how, as I have made them time and time again. Hopefully those people will have more success with these because they stay frozen and therefore should never be losing their shape. Part of me thinks I should have made snickerdoolle truffles. I need to figure out how to make those and put them in something. Mmm.
This is smooth and creamy and of course coming across chunks of oatmeal raisin cookie dough is pretty nice too.
Oatmeal-Raisin Cookie Dough Cinnamon Ice Cream
Oatmeal Raisin Cookie Dough Truffles
½ cup unsalted butter, at room temperature
¾ cup dark brown sugar, packed
14 oz condensed milk
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 cup flour
1 cup rolled oats
½ tsp salt
½ tsp cinnamon
¼ tsp ginger
¼ tsp nutmeg
½ cup raisins, chopped in half if super large variety
Using a stand mixer with a paddle attachment cream the butter and the sugar together until they are light and fluffy.
Add the condensed milk and vanilla and beat until full incorporated.
Add the flour, oats, salt, and spices and beat on low until combined.
Fold in the raisins. Make sure they are evenly distributed as much as you can.
Using a teaspoon, scoop up small balls of the dough, roll them between your palms to round them, and place them on a greased baking sheet or a large plate/platter. Cover with cling wrap, and freeze for at least 4 hours.
Leave in freezer until ready to use for ice cream.
Cinnamon Ice Cream
1 cup whole milk
¾ cup granulated sugar
¼ cup light brown sugar, packed
pinch of salt
2 tsp cinnamon
2 cups heavy cream
6 large egg yolks
Warm the milk, sugars, salt, cinnamon and 1 cup of the cream on a medium saucepan. Once warm, cover and remove from heat, and let steep at room temperature for 1 hour.
Rewarm the cinnamon infused milk mixture. Pour the remaining 1 cup cream into a large bowl and set a mesh strainer on top.
In a separate medium bowl, whisk together the egg yolks. Slowly pour the warm mixture into the egg yolks, whisking constantly, then scrape the warmed egg yolks back into the saucepan.
Stir the mixture constantly over medium heat with a heatproof spatula, scraping the bottom as your stir, until the mixture thickens and coats the spatula. Pour the custard through the strainer and into the cream. Stir until cool over an ice bath.
Chill the mixture thoroughly in the refrigerator, then freeze it in your ice cream maker according to the manufacturer’s instructions.
When ice cream is prepared, place into a large bowl and fold the cookie dough truffles into the ice cream. Place into a freezer safe container and let freeze for at least 4 hours.
Cinnamon Ice Cream recipe adapted from Perfect Scoop: Ice Creams, Sorbets, Granitas, and Sweet Accompaniments by David Lebovitz
A terrific ice cream! I love that perfume!
the ice cream sounds great, and
oh dear, another ice cream to make. i have so many. let’s open an ice cream shop shall we? lol
Fab! One cannot think of diet when she comes here 😉
That looks heavenly! My favourite kind of cookie dough!
How do you think of these yummy, sweet concoctions??!! Wow. It looks amazing.
I think your great advice applies not only to heterosexual relationships. Women should be honest when dating other women, and men should be honest with other men. Not all women are interested in men and vice versa. 🙂 We go through the same issues! Thank for the advice. You’re so right.
I gave up that faking it crap long ago. Now I’m totally up front about who I am and yeah maybe I get less dates that way. But it also means I have to spend less time watching football games and action movies.
This ice cream looks fantastic. Good for you for making it for yourself! More for you anyway 😛
very good advice… it’s hard enough to stay on the same page as people change (naturally) throughout relationships! you just makes it harder on yourself if you’re not honest about who you are in the beginning!
Excellent advice, sometimes hard to learn!
This ice cream looking amazing. Can’t wait to try it!
Dear Love Doctor, Why doesn’t my husband enjoy quilting like I do?
We both love ice cream. Compromise is everything in a happy relationship!
Unfortunately my husband and I do not often have the same dessert taste. But this ice cream looks fabulous and I definitely want to try making it! I’ve made chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream but I’ve never thought to use another type of cookie dough.
Do you know how much money you could make if, five minutes after posting your latest recipe, you showed up on my doorstep with that food in hand? I would be offering you obscene amounts of money. I end up printing out most of your recipes and then I never have the time (or I’m too lazy) to actually cook many of them. They all look great, though, keep posting them, maybe I’ll have to invite fifty people over for a week and go through my whole backlog of your recipes.
I wish you were my neighbor so that whenever you post a picture of your latest concoction I could just walk on over and try it! Everything always looks SO yummy!
Jill Buker says
I have a 21 year old niece that could really use some of you well earned wisdom. Also, love your recipes!!
OH. MY. GOSH. Bookmarked, bookmarked, bookmarked. I love my ice cream (and my Cuisinart ice cream maker!), oh yes oh yes I do. That looks breathtakingly fabulous!
Ah, but you know, some people would think that sitting through NASCAR is a good enough price to pay for prime gluteal access 😉 But yeah, you have to tell the truth, at the same time affirming that you don’t have to match up exactly on your interests and not to take your disinterest personally.
Anyway, I’m glad you strained out the cinnamon sticks, lol 🙂 I love oatmeal raisin cookies. I don’t think I’ve seen anything like this before – it’s quite inviting!
Oh gee! I was just about to do the same and make something delightful for myself, so it can be all mine! I just read your About Me, ha ha! Who does not eat soup, indeed? Your husband would starve at our house! So good to know I am not the only one who married someone with opposite tastes. And hooray for upfront! Hubby was the only one who could handle my upfrontedness.
I love the contrasting effect that you get from the warmth of the cinnamon and then the coldness of the ice-cream…..tongue tickles!!!
awesome ice cream, lady! a dealbreaker for me would be an aversion to cinnamon–that’s one thing i can’t live without. 🙂
When it comes to desserts, I stay true to myself too! No sense in wasting calories on something I don’t really, really love.
Excellent advice, and a good recipe as well!
looks like great gal-pal party ice cream 🙂
Excellent, as usual…
I wouldn’t lie if it meant camping!
Oh my. Your ice cream has condensed milk in it. That means I’m all in!
You have pretty much taken all the ingredients we love in cc and oatmeal cookes and jammed it into an ice cream churner. Yummee.
Hi Peabody. I started reading your blog for the recipes and photos, but more often read it for the stories about your life that preface the recipes and photos. And yeah just wanted to chime in and say that being true to yourself really is the best advice you can give. Retain your identity. Don’t lie about liking and not liking stuff.
Oh, and I like your blog a lot.
Just when I think it can’t possibly be done, you go and outfab yourself! This is amazing ice cream. I want to dive in the pictures and go for a swim with my mouth open.
And about that cute butt – it would just ending up spreading from sitting on the couch watching NASCAR. Zero loss there.
Mrs. L says
I have no problem with making sweets full of things my husband doesn’t like and I do (like cinnamon and coconut)…just means more for me 🙂
Cookie dough truffles? Do tell!
Your advice is spot-on and priceless. Love your recipes, love your stories/observations even more (which is saying something, because your lovely pictures are drool inducing)!
Joanna from Colorado says
I wish my best guy friend would read this post. His girl (I will hold back all the names we call her for family-friendly-ness) TOTALLY fakes stuff. She’s dumb.
Anyway, my husband would literally kiss you for posting this recipe. Oatmeal Cookie ice cream is one of his favorites. Thanks!!!
Why is it women fall into the dating trap you describe. I’ve done it, all my girl friends have done it, yet the cycle rolls forward. You would think some of would have learned the lesson by now…it took me twice but I’m a slow learner! ;D
Thanks for bringing this up. Maybe more women will take your advice!
Sage advice – sadly many will not follow it and learn the hard way. Terrific looking icecream! Love the raisins.
All the sports channels need to be made aware of the fact that poker and snooker are not sports, either.
Oatmeal cookies are my favorite and I almost think the dough is better than the actual cookie so this looks so good to me!
Love this ice cream! My hubby went to bars with me a few times while we were dating, but I learned later that he really isn’t a fan. I like going out with my girlfriends, but sometimes I want him to come too!
wow i have to try this one 🙂 i love everything about it!
They come for dating advice, I come for food. Nice ice cream, when do we eat?
My husband pretended to be uninterested in college football. Finally after 10 months of dating he let me know that he is a BIG Ohio State fan (I am a Michigan fan) by that point it was too late and I was hooked. My mom says it is the smartest thing he’s ever done keeping his mouth shut about liking Ohio State!
I love the way you spew all of this gibberish from your jowls!
Nice…If I have time this weekend I will try out this recipe.
This looks the best ice cream EVER, it sounds like something ben n jerrys would make, yumm cravings!!
Did you say snickerdoodle truffles? Yes, please!
Justin Rudd says
The husband here. I feel I must defend myself a little bit.
I grew up in an area that had no hockey. Well…maybe it did. But the circle I ran in didn’t watch/know it.
So yes…when I started dating Peabody, I was interested in learning about it because 1.) she is interested in it, and 2.) I didn’t know anything about it.
Do I watch it now? Not really because I got overloaded on it. True that’s my fault. But I do still like the game…in moderation 🙂
Lisa @ The Cooking Bride says
Down here, about 95% of the men like to go deer hunting. I have no interest in getting up before dawn and sitting for hours in the freezing cold so MAYBE I can kill a defenseless woodland creature. I can’t tell you how many other wives/girlfriends have suggested I take up my husband’s hobby so we can spend more quality time together. HA!
Ooooh this ice cream sounds SO good! Oatmeal cookie dough is one of the best kinds of cookie dough.
I just have to say: I have just come across your blog and am currently dating a picky eater.
Like, eats 4 foods picky. It’s been really difficult as a foodie, but I love how you still have your passion for awesome amazing food and I hope he can share in that with you!
Your blog is inspiring, although I still don’t know what to do with myself. haha.