While my parents were here I made them watch Horrible Bosses. I am highly amused by that movie especially:
Nick Hendricks: I was drag racing. I’m a drag racer.
Detective Samson: You were drag racing?
Nick Hendricks: Mmm.
Detective Samson: In a Prius?
Nick Hendricks: I don’t win a lot.
If you have never seen it they basically plot to kill their Horrible Bosses, though there is debate among my male friends just how horrible it would be to have Jennifer Aniston throwing herself at you. This sparked a conversation with friends about people in our lives that the world would be better off if they were not around.
I was surprised in the fact that I was the only one that said no one. Now do not get me wrong there are people that I would love not to personally be in my life anymore but I don’t wish that person dead. That person has people who matter to them. If you have seen the movie you may say that who would care if some of those bosses were dead, especially the coke head? Well…the hookers. I mean clearly the Asian Coke-Head hookers that he hired certainly will miss him, maybe not him the person, but certainly the income and cocaine he provided for them. He will be missed. He will be missed.
So then this kind of brought up the whole “don’t let negative people in your life” approach to life. And it’s a great thought but not a realistic one. Certainly when the choice is mine, I choose to only hang with people that bring good things to my life and not waste my energy on those who don’t….this includes relatives. I am one of the rare people who seems to believe that just because someone is family doesn’t mean you automatically are responsible to have a relationship with them. But sometimes you cannot help but have toxic people in your life. Horrible bosses being one way (especially in today’s economy) and an ex-spouse that you share children with. I have had my fair share of a horrible boss for sure. Most of the time I just made their life as fun as they make mine (I’ll tell about the Costco dresses one post) but in a completely acceptable way. 😛 And you don’t actually have to communicate with your ex or at the least limit it greatly. But the reality is that sometime you have to deal with the annoying people of the world. The good news is that eventually bosses move on or you do and kids grow up. So just keep that in mind when they seem to really be under your skin.
Apparently a lot of people were in favor of my sharing my Navy Bean Soup recipe so here it is. It’s a take on my mom’s version. Hers is basically onion, ham, beans, water…and that’s what I grew up with and loved it just fine. But I wanted to add some celery, BACON, carrots and garlic…so I did. I like my version better but wouldn’t turn down my mom’s ever. 🙂
My Mom’s Navy Bean Soup Peabody Style
1 large ham hock with hopefully some meat on it
2 bags (16 ounces each) dried Navy Beans (soaked overnight)..if you have a small ham hock go with one bag
½ bag of carrot shreds (if you can’t find carrot shreds than about ¾ cup diced carrot)
1 cup diced onion
¾ cup diced celery
1 pound center cut bacon (I like to use center cut as it has less fat), fried up and chopped in to pieces
Salt and pepper to taste
Put the ham hock in a stock pot and pour water into it just until it cover the ham hock. I had a pretty big one this weekend so that is why I am using 2 bags of beans. Bring to a boil and then move to a simmer. Simmer for about 30 minutes.
Now you should have some good tasting ham water, add onions, celery, and beans. Remove the ham hock and set aside to cool. Bring to a boil and then back to simmer once you have reached a boil. Let simmer for an hour stirring from time to time. If soup is getting too thick feel free to add more water at this point.
Add the carrot shreds, bacon, and garlic. Continue to simmer for another 45 minutes, stirring from time to time. You are looking for most of the beans to be whole but some of them breaking down to make it look a little milky. Add salt and pepper to taste.
This looks amazing! Looks like I know what I’m making for dinner tomorrow night, thanks for posting it 🙂
I try to remember that there’s usually a good reason that some people are “negative”. They may be enduring things that we cant imagine and don’t know about. I don’t have a lot of patience in general so I try to remind myself of this when dealing with difficult people. Your navy soup reminds me of one my mom used to make.. I think my hubby would like it so I’ll try it.
nice to hear that i’m not the only one who feels that one doesn’t have to allow a negative person into their life just because that person is a relative. and that doesn’t seem to be widely supported belief does it?
@Jacquie- yes I don’t get the whole they are family we have to accept them bs. If the person wouldn’t be my friend in real life just because they are family doesn’t mean I need them in my life.
I always try to wish people were not in my life, not dead. The few times I start to wish they were dead (and not in a joking manner), I take it back.
I have some people in my life who I really wish I did not know, and had never had contact with.
Amanda Joy says
Getting rid of my personal facebook was a great thing for me… there were too many family members that we giant black rain clouds. I was hiding them all anyway, so I just made it official. Now I only have to see them at the random family get together… life is much more peaceful:)
Simple, good recipe – thanks for sharing.
The soup is practically making me drool…but the Costco dresses? I have to know.
I so agree with you on the family member thing. I choose to separate myself from certain family members because if I don’t, it never ends well. Drama occurs and that’s just not good for me.
On a different note, this soup looks so good. I wish it weren’t in the 80s here so I’d feel up to making a big pot of yummy, warm soup. 🙂
Your mom’s bean soup recipe sounds exactly like my mom’s, hers is 1 lb great northern beans, ham hock, pepper & water. I’d still eat my mom’s too.
Thanks for the recipe, this looks so good! Perfect for the rainy weather we are having today.
I spent a lot of my youth weeding out the people that I thought were not healthy for me to be around. As a result I have a small, but very tight group of friends in my “adult” years.
Unfortunately sometimes when you want to be close to some of your family, it means that you also have to put up with those that are less than pleasant. My mother is constantly dealing with the problems of others but does not have the same outlet. I’m not sure how she does it, but I think she’s eventually going to have a nervous breakdown because of it.
Soup looks great, I’ve never had (nor heard of )Navy Bean soup, but it sounds quite good… I mean ham hock and bacon… ? Come on 🙂
I’m so trying this tomorrow..I’ll report back..
The relatives that are tarnishing ones life..yeah..I get rid of those, as you know. 🙂